Have you ever notice that as soon as you start dieting, everybody seems to becomes a diet guru?
Or how about when you're about to quit your job, everybody seems to turn into a career coach?
Unfortunately, most of the time the advice is pretty horrible. Usually, it is for innocent reasons; they want to feel like they are helping, but they simply lack the expertise to provide quality information.
However, sometimes it is for not-so-innocent reasons. Maybe they hate their job, but are too afraid to leave it, so they project those insecurities on to you. Or maybe they are insecure about their bodies, so they try to consciously(or subconsciously) attempt to undermine your attempts at obtaining the physique that you desire.
Not everybody needs to know the whole story about why you're quitting your job, for most people it can simply be "it wasn't a great fit" and leave it at that; the less that they have to go off of, the less inclined they will be to "help". For people who can genuinely help(manager, actual career coach), the story should be much more detailed.
Give people the correct amount of information; not too much, and not too little.
What you see as "horrible advice" is often not that at all. Some people are genuine and really do want to let you know - they are there for you, should you need anything because they care. Some people want to share their experiences in hopes that you might take something away from their story that will be a benefit to you. Be open to others in the world and learn from their experiences.
ReplyDeleteI do understand your point, however, I feel like most of the time stories aren't simply shared, and instead concrete plans of you should do "XYZ" are offered.
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